How does someone build themselves?

I feel like I’m losing touch with everything around me.

I’m at a place where I want to grow out of old habits and make changes but I don’t know where to begin. This is personality wise, where I want to be more and have a life.

I usually get told I’m a chill individual, I have moments where I act childish, behave immaturely, and irritate people just by what I do sometimes. I over complicate things so much, the basic things needs to be broken down for me to understand.

Some people characterize me as weird and socially awkward, and I’ve just stuck with that and let it stay with me up till now. I just want to make changes, to get rid of those negative perceptions about me for myself and those who I interact with.

I ask people, older and younger, what they do and what they’ve done to find themselves and know who they are, and it just leads me to acting differently or being more like them.