So, I turned cross play off and am happier overall.

I turned it off about a week ago (Xbox) and I have to say, it's better for me.

\- The ttk is noticeably different when I'm on the receiving end which gives me a little more of a chance.

\- the matches seem a little more balanced. Not perfect but better.

\- I went from .84 to .89 k/d within that week with no change to how I play.

The only downside is what I expected and that's the wait time in lobbies. I'm in the eastern US and most of the time, I play the early morning hours during the week. If it's bad enough I can always play casual breakthrough which is fine. Unless I get desperate, I have no intention of turning it back on.